The other day I blogged about this thing I wrote called "My Man and our Happy Healthy Relationship" A crayon magic thing without crayons, cuz that many words written in crayon would be reeeeeeeaaaaally long. But I still made it pretty, so that counts. Here is the actually text of that life-changing thing I wrote. Now go make your own!
My
Man
and
our
Happy,
Healthy Relationship
He
Is...
Happy.
He loves life. He learns from
life. He lives his dreams. He lives to be his best self and does not
let bad experiences ruin or define him. He chooses to be happy.
Responsible.
He does what he says he will
do. He does what needs to be done whether he has been asked to or
not. He takes responsibility for himself, his actions, and the
consequences of his actions. He does not blame others. He makes
educated and responsible decisions. He actively works to right
wrongs. He works instead of complaining. He is not afraid to admit
when he makes a mistake. He recognizes and lives by the principle
that he is responsible for his life, no one else.
Respectful.
He respects himself and others. He celebrates differences. He
celebrates individuality. He respects others' thoughts, feelings, and
beliefs. He respects free-agency. He respects each individual's
authority over his or her own life. He respects boundaries. He
respects opinions. He respects 'no'. He respects life, nature,
children, and elders. He handles arguments and disagreements with
respect for both himself and the other party. He does not allow
others to push him around, nor does he try to push anyone else
around.
Forgiving.
He understands the healing
power of forgiveness. He knows how to forgive. He learns from the
past and does not hold on to anger or resentment. He lets things go.
Honest.
He is honest with himself and others. He is trusting and
trustworthy. He is clear with his intentions and lives and acts
according to what he thinks and says. He has integrity.
Kindhearted.
He is kind to himself and
others. He sees the best in people. He cares about and helps people.
He treats everyone as cherished human beings. Slow to anger and quick
to forgive.
Loving.
He has a generous capacity for
love. He allows himself to feel love deeply. He expresses love
freely. He is not afraid of love. He accepts love. He cherishes those
that he loves, and he cherishes love that is given to him.
Good
with Kids. He loves Sean and
Constance and enjoys interacting with them. He has a firm and loving
parenting style that complements mine.
Healthy.
He is physically healthy. He makes healthy choices and is rarely
sick. He prefers 'natural' health and healing. He stays active and
keeps himself physically fit. He takes good care of his body without
being overly obsessive about it.
Spiritual.
He has a strong sense of his own divine nature and a reverence for
and connection with a higher power.
Successful.
He works well in a career he enjoys, feels good about, and is
all-around happy with, or he is actively working toward such a
career. He earns more than enough money to live comfortably on. He
manages his money well and is both generous and frugal.
Balanced.
He is balanced in all things.
He is both confident and humble. Sensual but not driven by sex.
Hardworking and fun, serious and silly. He loves, respects, and cares
for himself just as much as others, and others as much as himself. He
keeps himself and his life in balance.
...He
is also majorly attractive, ultra-stylish, and totally individual!
In
our relationship...
We
are equal partners.
He
appreciates me for all I am as a woman and I appreciate him for all
he is as a man. We are not the same but we are equal.
He
treats me differently because I am a woman, but never less. He allows
me to be a stereotypical woman and still respects me as an equal,
even when he doesn't understand me.
I
support him in all his manly roles, but it is not my job to take care
of him. I value all he does for me as a man, but I don't make it his
job to take care of me, either.
We
support each other equally. We care for each other equally. We share
work equally and divide roles equally, according to what we each are
best at. We make important decisions together, with each partner
having equal say, and we respect each others' individual decision
making power in his or her own roles, and for the smaller everyday
things.
We
are strongly unified and still equally strong as individuals.
We
each have our own opinions, friends, interests, etc., and that's OK!
We
are a team. We never doubt each others' loyalties.
We
respect one another.
We
are confident and secure enough in ourselves and our relationship to
avoid jealousy.
We
are open and honest while maintaining and respecting a healthy
measure of privacy.
We
are not at all controlling or manipulative.
We
practice good communication.
We
clearly and respectfully express to each other what we want and need.
We
listen to each other and always do our best to understand each other.
We
each respect the other's thoughts and feelings.
We
fight fairly.
We
are slow to anger and quick to forgive.
It
is safe for us to make and admit mistakes.
We
do not hold on to old hurts. We let things go.
We
look for the win-win in every situation.
We
appreciate each other.
We
love the little things about each other.
We
never take the other for granted.
We
see the best in each other.
We
recognize and value each others' good efforts, intentions, actions,
talents, etc.
We
support each other.
We
speak each others' love languages.
Our
sex life rocks.
We
enjoy a healthy, balanced, safe, fun, and respectful sex life.
We
are very attracted to each other and connect well sexually.
Our
sex is both intimate and passionate.
Our
relationship is Win-Win!
I
love him and he loves me!
